My second baby just turned one and I STILL have a baby bump. In certain outfits this looks more true than others. It's definitely worse when I'm not wearing my Spanx (which I have refused to do on a daily basis). At least like a true baby bump it doesn't get bigger and bigger. Instead it has wild fluctuations depending on what and when I eat, my overall GI health, hormones, and even if I have a full bladder!! There are some days I even feel thin and then 2 days later, I'll wonder what happened.
When my baby was 11 months old I was super happy to step on the scale and be back to my pre-preganancy weight. I'm even in my old dress size. Unfortunately, some of my old jeans still don't button and many of my shirts are now mid-driffs. This is illogical because I can go to the store and buy new clothes in the old size that actually do fit but then go home and feel like I'm stuffing myself in my old clothes. I think part of that is variation in clothes. The other part, the bigger part, is when I put on my old clothes I expect to see myself the way I used to look in them before I had two babies.
And it's pretty unlikely that I will ever look the way I looked before I birthed my beautiful (and large) children. I'm not saying I won't be able to get to a place where I'm satisfied or at least accepting. But just that it will never be the same.
Backtracking for a moment - I was so happy to see the beautiful Kate Middleton admit to wearing maternity clothes postpartum and publicly look like this:
|Source: Google Images|
Because this is how I looked:
|1 week postpartum|
I also wore maternity pants to work for SEVEN MONTHS!! While this might be extreme, I couldn't fit into any of my regular clothes and I didn't want to have to buy multiple work wardrobes while going through this slow transition. I had been lucky enough to just have to change scrub sizes for my work wardrobe after my first baby. By the way - added benefit of maternity pants (other than the elastic) is that they smooth the belly and are much more comfortable than Spanx. People would tell me "you look great" and I would feel guilty because it felt like I was cheating by wearing belly flattening (maternity) pants.
Today, I'm thankfully out of maternity pants but I still have a protruding belly and I do my best to cover it up. Before I had children I didn't think I could fix the things I didn't like (I won't detail what those things are) but there is one thing I CAN fix now. It's my diastasis recti. The separation of my abdominal muscles that occurred while I was pregnant. It's something that I thought would just fix itself if I gave it enough time. But it hasn't.
Maybe you also have this problem. Hopefully, you're lucky and this didn't happen to you. Maybe your baby is too young for you to notice and you are quite comfy in your sweats and maternity pants (enjoy it as long as possible!). I've read of people who didn't know they had this until their kids were in their 20s. But I've done the simple test to check and my muscles have not returned, not even after a year. And I'm at the point where I'm ready to fix it. Here's hoping it works!
Here's the link with a little info about diastasis recti and the exercises I started.
It's new to me so I don't know how it'll go but it's worth a try. Please let me know if you've tried this or have any other methods. I'll keep you posted on my progress and would love to hear your story too!